What to do for summer? How do you get through the summer with the kids and stay sane?
Summer is a great time for having fun, taking time off and visiting new places.BUT what about the roller coaster emotions dealing with moving schools, starting college, empty nesting,
BUT what about the roller coaster of emotions when you are dealing with the following
- moving schools
- starting college
- empty nesting
- first day of school
- teenagers at home
- kids starting a job
all are scenarios to be faced through the summer and I am sure you can think of a lot more.
When the kids are home for the summer, as parents we have mixed feelings, we love they are free from all the homework and studying and can relax and be kids again, but there are many factors to consider, such as:
- Taking time off work
- Preparing them to live away from you
- How much is summer going to cost?
- Who will look after them when parents are working?
- Should I send them to summer camp?
- Should I leave them alone?
These are pressures that all parents face and finding the solutions can be a challenge for many of you.
I am sure you can think of a few more.
What to do for Summer on a budget.
- Bike riding
- walking in the park
- Taking a picnic to the park or the beach
- go to a farm
- teach them how to cook/bake
- take photos and make albums
There are also several emotions that families go through during the summer months which also need to be recognzied and dealt with.
Grief is an emotion that is often felt at a time like this. Grief is not just associated with death, the feelings of loss are apparent when the child has their first day at school, when they go off to college.
Remember the kids feel this too but might explain it as sadness. When they are changing schools or classes and some of the friends they have made might not be moving with them, they feel a sense of loss and their confidence levels can drop.
When the family are feeling grief or any other emotions it is a good idea to talk to each other about how you are feeling. Bottling up the feelings will only make things worse and last longer. Discussing things together is very healthy and some things you should keep in mind.
Strategies and Tips
DO NOT interrupt when people are speaking.
DO give them the time to say what they need to say
DO NOT dismiss what they are saying or feeling.
DO let them know you understand how they feel and let them know it is OK to have those feelings.
DO NOT ask WHY this word gives the impression they have to justify themselves instead use what, where, how and when.
DO discuss how you feel also at the right moment
DO NOT lose your temper or patience when listening to the others
DO NOT put words in their mouth, use the same words they are using when you speak back to them.
What a person is feeling is personal to them and nobody knows how another person feels. We can imagine how they feel but can never know exactly, even if you go through the same trauma you will still have your own set of feelings. Respect each others feelings.
Communication is key and will help ease the stress of your summer vacation. Along with all the other summer safety tips you will have perhaps some emotional safety is needed to.
Have a great summer.
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