What to do for Summer – How to Get Through Summer with the kids and stay sane.

What to do for summer

What to do for summer? How do you get through the summer with the kids and stay sane?

Summer is a great time for having fun, taking time off and visiting new places.BUT what about the roller coaster emotions dealing with moving schools, starting college, empty nesting,

BUT what about the roller coaster of emotions when you are dealing with the following

  • moving schools
  • starting college
  • empty nesting
  • first day of school
  • teenagers at home
  • kids starting a job

all are scenarios to be faced through the summer and I am sure you can think of a lot more.Summer safety tips for kids

When the kids are home for the summer, as parents we have mixed feelings, we love they are free from all the homework and studying and can relax and be kids again, but there are many factors to consider, such as:

  • Taking time off work
  • Boredom
  • Preparing them to live away from you
  • How much is summer going to cost?
  • Who will look after them when parents are working?
  • Should I send them to summer camp?
  • Should I leave them alone?

These are pressures that all parents face and finding the solutions can be a challenge for many of you.

I am sure you can think of a few more.

What to do for Summer on a budget.What to do in Summer

  • Bike riding
  • walking in the park
  • Taking a picnic to the park or the beach
  • go to a farm
  • teach them how to cook/bake
  • gardening
  • take photos and make albums

There are also several emotions that families go through during the summer months which also need to be recognzied and dealt with.

Grief is an emotion that is often felt at a time like this. Grief is not just associated with death, the feelings of loss are apparent when the child has their first day at school, when they go off to college.

Remember the kids feel this too but might explain it as sadness.  When they are changing schools or classes and some of the friends they have made might not be moving with them,  they feel a sense of loss and their confidence levels can drop.

When the family are feeling grief or any other emotions it is a good idea to talk to each other about how you are feeling.  Bottling up the feelings will only make things worse and last longer.  Discussing things together is very healthy and some things you should keep in mind.

Strategies and Tips

DO NOT interrupt when people are speaking.Positive Affirmations

DO give them the time to say what they need to say

DO NOT dismiss what they are saying or feeling.

DO let them know you understand how they feel and let them know it is OK to have those feelings.

DO NOT ask WHY this word gives the impression they have to justify themselves instead use what, where, how and when.

DO discuss how you feel also at the right moment

DO NOT lose your temper or patience when listening to the others

DO NOT put words in their mouth, use the same words they are using when you speak back to them.

What a person is feeling is personal to them and nobody knows how another person feels.  We can imagine how they feel but can never know exactly, even if you go through the same trauma you will still have your own set of feelings.  Respect each others feelings.

Communication is key and will help ease the stress of your summer vacation.   Along with all the other summer safety tips you will have perhaps some emotional safety is needed to.

Have a great summer.

What to do in the summer


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14 Comments

  1. Ashley

    I agree! It’s all about open communication. Often we assume we know what someone is feeling, or we assume they know what we are feeling. We have to be open to talking about our feelings!

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    1. helenvella (Post author)

      Not enough of it done, if there were then we would all be able to understand and help each other more. Open communication with your kids is something every family should strive for.

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  2. Daisy Crawford

    Thanks for the advice. Sometimes it’s hard to slow down in life and learn how to truly enjoy yourself, even for just a summer break. Our minds are overfull.

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    1. Helen Vella (Post author)

      Yes we live in a very fast past society which is why things are so stressful and pressure is greater. Thanks for your comments

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  3. Matt

    Your absolutely right communication is key! When I was growing up my parents never required the family to sit at the table and talk to each other. Although, maybe as a child I wouldn’t have liked it but not I feel we have not bonded as a family as much. I think it is also because my family is quite shy but sitting at the dinner table just to discuss the day using the tip you provided as well is a great bonding experience.

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    1. Helen Vella (Post author)

      Thank you for sharing, if more families were to sit around the table and talk and share perhaps it may change the way out next generation will shape the world.

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  4. Helen Vella (Post author)

    Thank you so much, and thank you for sharing, anxiety is not something that is easy to live with for many.

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  5. Rachel

    Helen,

    This is all great advice for practically any situation! This could seriously help improve my relationships with many people. I am going to make sure that I do these things and hopefully people around me will follow my lead. I suffer from anxiety and I am sure most people worldwide do at some point in their lives. This is a fantastic site. I am going to share this on Facebook and I am bookmarking your site. I can’t wait to read more! Thank you, Helen!

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  6. Owain

    You are so right. Communication is very important. As you say you need to let the other person say what they want to say. That way we know what they want and we can get along better. It’s all about communication. Thank you for sharing.

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    1. Helen Vella (Post author)

      Thanks for your feedback, always happy to help.

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  7. Chas

    My daughter is all grown up now, but I do remember summer breaks from school always being so trying. Having to secure day care and buying a lot more food! Growing bored kids eat a lot when school is out. It was a frustrating time for me as a parent. My child always was bored which being an only child probably had a lot to do with it…but summers were the worst. Great post!

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    1. Helen Vella (Post author)

      Thank you – yes even harder when there is only 1 child.

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  8. Melissa

    Thanks Helen! It’s so true what you said about how we never really know what another person is feeling, we can only imagine it. What an important thing to remember, especially when what someone is telling us is hard to hear.

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    1. Helen Vella (Post author)

      Thanks Melissa, glad you liked it.

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